Discover how children learn to listen, and how to get kids to listen that can't or won't, and how to correct behavior problems before they become serious. Bad behavior is the problem, NOT THE CHILD!!!

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• Assessing your own skills:

One thing that I always tell people who ask me, is that getting your child to listen doesn’t happen overnight and it isn’t something that only your child needs to learn.

If you want your child to listen, then you need to know how to give firm direction and still offer them the love and support that comes with listening.

Trust me, while the statement is easy to say, it is not easy to do and the very first thing you need to do, is understand your strengths and your weaknesses when it comes to listening.

No one, and I mean no one, is perfect when it comes to listening. We are all individuals and because of this, we have thoughts that are constantly running in the background.

We are often so focused on that background noise that we hear less than 10% of what is actually said. In addition, that 10% is usually the stuff we don’t like and we automatically begin to think of a defence against that information.

It is a horrible cycle but it is something that we can learn to overcome. All we need to do is have a little patience with ourselves and to be aware of the different things that we do that affect our own ability to listen and, more importantly, get people listening to us.

• How do I talk?

The very first thing that you should look at when you are assessing your own skills is to listen to the way that you talk.

Believe it or not, as parents, we often affect a different
tone with our children, which can be good and bad.

One example of this that I have seen is a particular preschool teacher who talked to children in a very excited and childish tone. This was a wonderful tone for playing but when it came to asking for things to be
done, the children didn’t listen because the tone was too fun to really mean business.

On the other hand, another preschool teacher in the same center used a variety of tones that reflected the different moods of the day.

During learning times, her tone became calm and engaging and was a similar tone to the one she would use with an adult.

During play, the excited tone was present but it didn’t hold the childish tone and was still very similar to an adult tone.

Lastly, when she needed the children to listen, she would switch the tone to one that was strong, but quite and most importantly, it was firm.

In only a few seconds, she was able to bring sixteen children’s attention to her and they would quickly listen to whatever she directed them to do.

• Learning How to Talk

Okay, we are finally at a stage where you can actually begin on the hard task of getting your child to listen.

You may not realize it, but in the other chapters, you were not only honing your own skills for listening but building a bond with your child.

Although I will go over it more later in this book, providing a loving environment with your child and building a bond will only aid you in getting your child to listen.

You know yourself, that if someone doesn’t have an apparent and nurturing investment in you, then you are less likely to listen to them.

The same is applied to children and I remember as a child not listening to certain adults because the respect and investment
wasn’t there.

However, once you have started that bond and showed them that respect, you can really build on their listening skills.

However, it is important that you learn how to talk to
them so you can guarantee that you have success in getting them to listen.

In this chapter, I will go over the points on getting your child to listen and I will also close with a few tips that are sure to get your kids to listen.

• Talking to instead of talking down

One mistake that parents make is that they tend to talk down to their child.

They use baby words to describe things and they avoid any question that they deem too adult.

While there are many subjects that are too advanced for children and there are some conversations that are too adult, a child should never be talked down to.

To avoid this, use a tone that is appropriate for the age level. You don’t need to use a strictly adult tone but don’t use a tone that is too babyish.

Children know when something is fake and a baby tone is definitely fake for an adult.

In addition to your tone, you should be aware of times when you are using your knowledge against your child. Statements like, ‘you are only six,’ or ‘how would you know,’ can lead to you talking down to your child.

They prove to the child that they are too young to really have any knowledge or input into the situation and this is not always the case.

Lastly, never use a cajoling voice with your child because this is a perfect example of talking down to your child and it is an insincere manner in which to speak.

It is important that you use an even tone with real words so if your child is upset, it is not okay to say in a cajoling tone, ‘Oh, poor baby. Do you want your blankie?’

Although that doesn’t seem too bad, it can be rather belittling and it would be better to say, ‘I understand that you are feeling sad right now. Would your blanket make you feel
better?’

If your child won't listen its frustrating for the entire family

That frustration can manifest itself in the form anger, yelling and consequences for the child involved, and at times for all of the children of that family.

The home enviroment is strained.

Relationship building with your children are greatly affected by these negative experiences.

As a Parent you realize that something must change.

It may be during an argument that you realize that a change must be made and made quickly, before your children stop listening to anything that you say.

Every parent has a journey to make.

The path may seem very clear at the start of that journey, but keep this in mind. All children are individuals unto themselves. The path for one may lead to disaster with another.

Keep an open mind.

Follow the basic fundemental rules of parenting with an open mind for the individual child and your going to be pretty close. 

"With a bit of help, absolutely anyone can get their kids to listen ... with virtually NO risk"

The information gathered in this book is compiled from a variety of extremely credible sources as well as my own personal experiences.

How I solved the problems I have encountered.

It’s concise and to the point.

This is a book that is serious about effecting a positive change in children with behavior problems, and getting to the root of what caused the problem to begin with. 

Here are some of the things you will find in the book,
Getting Kids to Listen:

Becoming a Parent

1.     It all Begins with the Foundation
2.     Everything is not ‘Okay’

Assessing your own skills

1.     How do I talk?
2.     ‘I’ is usually before ‘E’ but it should always be before You 
3.     How do I listen?
4.     Parachutes save lives and paraphrasing saves conversations
5.     What does my body language say?
6.     The Body has a lot to say
7.     What do I expect?

Learning How to Listen

1.     Fulfilling the self prophecy
2.     Relax and find the time

Learning How to Talk

1.     Talking to instead of talking down
2.     Expand your child’s vocabulary
3.     How to avoid talking over
4.     Language shouldn’t be corrected, it should be demonstrated
5.     Correction instead of punishment
6.     Anger is never the right way
7.     Tips for talking with your child

It’s all in the language

1.     Talking to your children at their level
2.     Plan to listen together
3.     Removing unwanted words from your vocabulary

Encouraging your Child

1.     Promote listening through sharing
2.     Sharing with the vault
3.     Laying the seeds of confidence
4.     Time for just me and you
5.     Talking on an equal playing field
6.     Trusting their judgement
7.     Teaching problem solving
8.     Becoming the Mediator

Raising a responsible child                
1.  Chores build character          

Building a Listening Relationship

1.     Finer art of give and take conversations
2.     How to mean it when you say it
3.     “What did you like?”
4.     Guidance through love

How will your children benefit from this book.

Your children will benefit from this book in many different ways:

• They will learn how to listen effectively.
• They will know that you are ready to listen to them.
• They will gain self-esteem and confidence.
• They will establish a stronger relationship with their parents.
• They will interact with thier piers better.
• They will have more incite to relationship building with friends.
• They will have more success in school and collage.
  

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